Articles by Stan Dean

Bad Examples of Fatherhood

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Thinking about Father’s Day, there are many good things I could say about fathers and their importance to our society. However, here I have chosen to think about his role in reverse. In other words, what is it like to have a father that does not fulfil the role God has given him? Unfortunately, we don’t have to look far to find examples of those and I offer two for your consideration.

Example One: A man, only in his early thirties, was killed in an accident leaving behind his wife and small children. Adding to the pain was the fact that he was not a Christian. In spite of the pleadings of his wife and children for years, he had shown little interest in spiritual things.

Because of the distraught and shocked condition of the young widow, the lot fell upon a Christian friend to take their oldest child, an eight-year-old daughter, to the funeral home and the service.

The little girl kept asking, “Did daddy go to heaven? He never went to Church!” Several who heard her question tried to offer some encouraging words, but no answer seemed to satisfy. Deep within her innocent heart was the gnawing realization that her Daddy’s life was not filled with those things that give hope at death. (What a pity!)

Example Two: A Christian man’s father passed away in another town. Even though he had not seen him in some time, due to a stormy relationship, he was still his daddy, so he went back home for the funeral.

Later, he recalls the funeral and confesses that he cried during the service. “Why?” he asked himself. “Maybe I wept because of what could have been.” You see his dad was an alcoholic. Drinking and having what the world calls having “a good time” dominated his life. Consequently, he missed out on the real joys of life. For example, he never knew the fulfillment of being involved in the lives of his children, nor did he ever know the thrill of grandchildren sitting on his lap with their little arms around his neck and saying, “I love you, granddaddy!” (Again- - what a pity!)

These are two of many examples of what fathers are not to be. And I would encourage any daddy who finds himself in the above stories to turn his life around before it is forever too late.

Fathers, you are tremendously important to your families! Your children need you and admire you perhaps more than you even know- - so please, don’t let them down! (cf. Deut. 6:4f; Eph. 6:4; Col. 3:21. etc.)

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