Articles by Stan Dean

Consider Your Ways

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A man had just started working for a new company and was invited to have lunch at the home of his boss. He was rather impressed with his new employer, especially when he saw the great relationship he had with his wife. When they entered his house his boss embraced his wife and told her how much he appreciated her preparing lunch for them. While they were eating he complimented his mate on the delicious meal and helped her clear the table when they finished. Before they left he kissed his wife and told her he looked forward to seeing her that evening.



The affectionate display impressed the new employee and made him realize how little love and appreciation he showed to his wife. He made up his mind that he would change that- - starting immediately! So, when he got home that evening he ran up to his wife and gave her a big hug and kiss and told her that he appreciated how nice the house looked and the meal she had prepared. Further, he said that after they finished that he would help her do the dishes so they could spend more time together.


Upon hearing those words his wife burst into tears. “What’s wrong?” he asked, “I thought you would be happy.” “Happy?!?” she replied. “This has been one of the worst days of my life. Little Johnny got in a fight at school- - I had a fender bender on my way home- - the washing machine broke- - and now to top it all off, you had to come home drunk!” 


 I get a chuckle out of this little story, but I also find in it a potent lesson. If kindness to our spouse makes him or her think we are intoxicated, running a high fever or the like, then a change is certainly in order for us. Too often we seem to think that practicing the “golden rule” and being “kind and tenderhearted” apply everywhere but in the home- - but not so!


There is an old adage that says, “If a man has enough horse sense to treat his wife like a thoroughbred, she will never grow into an old nag.” Thus, I close with a phrase from Haggai, “Consider your ways” (Haggai 1; cf. Matt. 7:12; Eph. 4:32).


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